Updated: Feb 16
Why is this important?
I know we have been misinformed to think that in order to be 'successful' in business and/or considered 'likable'...we have to connect with 'everyone' online. However, this just isn't true.
Online Connections (or people you "choose' to follow) should be done with intentionality.
👉🏽It’s a “Communication” Channel. Meaning, if you truly want to guard what you take in—your social media should reflect that. Every “request” shouldn’t be “accepted” into your personal ‘social’ space. Granted, you can’t fully control who lurks, creeps, stalks, etc. But, you can control what’s in your power to control.
👉🏽 Follow positive pages, folks, blogs, etc. It determines what pops up on your newsfeed. Granted, be “in the know”—but don’t be overly consumed by the constant potential negativity via inviting it into your “social” space.
👉🏽 If a “page”/“individual” doesn’t sit well with you…remove it. It’s not about being nice…you can still be ‘nice’ from a distance.🥰 It’s about protecting your peace and what type of content you want to consume. Granted, this (not following everyone) won’t eliminate all of the toxicity that life brings, but it surely will help in guarding your heart, mind, and what you consume (😉).
👉🏽 If you lack “emotional intelligence”—and you also take every post personal from particular individuals…it's a clear indicator that you’re not ready to be “social” with them, and it might be wise to disconnect as they clearly “trigger” you.
👉🏽 If you do not speak in person, why are you connected virtually? (granted, this isn’t always possible as many family members, work colleagues, friends, etc., Live both far & near). But, you all get the point. Choosing to "connect" via following their page is not a requirement.
👉🏽 Real relationships (be it in business or an interpersonal relationship), should have value. If it doesn’t bring value…why are you opening yourself up to it? Following and/or “Accepting” a million folks who do not add/bring value is foolish and unwise. And think about this...how many celebrities, high profile leaders, etc., "follow back"?😆 I’ll wait… My point? They don’t.
BUT…folks still follow them because they are feeding them something they like, crave, desire, and/or by adding value to their life. So, follow those who pour into YOU. You’re not obligated to follow folks who do not add value to YOU! You can’t be the ONLY one pouring. You need to be poured into. 💦 😎
And….I could go & and on. But I understand that attention spans' are short.😆😂 Anywho, in short: you can’t “fully” control who “follows” you…but you can control who you FOLLOW/Connect to.💕👌🏽
Canena Adams, MA, LLBSW, SRAS
Wife | Mother | Writer | Author | Public Speaker | Social Worker | Business Owner | Nonprofit Founder & Director | Sexual Risk Avoidance Specialist | Healthy Family & Relationship Advocate | Adjunct College Prof. | PhD Student